I stumbled across something I wish I didn't stumble across. I have been doing research here and there about pornography and listening to anti-pornography videos. My spirit's been telling me to do so because I've come across really brutal comments about sex lately and it's happening more regularly.
Comments like "I'll rape that ass", "I'll Beat it Up", "I'll stab that ass".
So you know me, I'm not a simpleton or a person that likes being passive until I'm forced to address something. So I said I want to absorb the ENERGY of why men are expressing themselves in an increasingly brutal way when they talk about sex with women. Many of these comments are by Black men. However, I mostly research this culture, so this is a Universal problem even if there are slight differences to what causes these thoughts.
For now let's flash forward to today. I was looking for the semi-naked picture of Maliah Michel that she recently took to prove some of the points I mentioned about her in my article "Is Sean Kingston the Next Ruben Studdard". I saw the picture on MTO, but I try not to lead people to their site so I wanted a picture without their tag.
Boy oh, boy, guess what happened? I did a Google search for it in the Image section and I couldn't believe what I saw and felt. There's picture after picture of this woman naked, or half-naked, feeding her body to the viewer. Some might be saying "duh", but I couldn't help but be shocked. Then I realized this is how Black men witness and view these women when they seek them out.
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Here's the problem, even as a heterosexual woman I was so disgusted, I wanted to step on her ass, take a cooking fork and stab it like a whole ham before serving, jump on it and because it seems like a piñata, beat it with a stick. You forget that she's human. Basically I wanted to put my foot up her ass, something her mother should have done lol. Now I'm not trying to be funny, always remember I speak about ENERGY and of course this is something I would never do, but she presents her butt in way that sends an ENERGY like it's detached from her and a "thing". That's dangerous to everyday women who walk around like unsuspecting victims and have the same 'butt" as her.
In any case, I felt uneasy about feeling this way so I decided to look deeper into what is going on in the minds of men since even as a heterosexual woman I had those deviant thoughts. Now it's clear by how men talk about having sex with these women or even everyday woman, that they are doing what I described above with their penises. They are having brutal sex with these women. They're not being gentle or "playfully rough" with them.
I can only assume that's why one of my most viewed articles is "The Energy of a Black Woman's Ass". Many Black women have sought that article out because they too are being abused and being subjected to not "playfully rough" but brutal sex.
I remember being on a radio show and a woman said "Southern men will have sex with you like your "DEAD". I will never forget this, and again it's comment like that and the comments that I've been reading that make me realize many men are becoming desensitized to sex. They are becoming not only desensitized to sex but to the delicacy of a woman's body. They're being bombarded with porn and women like Maliah. Women who serve their body in a way that says "I'm wild, ready for abuse, do what you want, handle and tame me". That's one of the strongest ENERGIES in porn.
I'm not going to make this article long most of ya'll have attention spans of 10 seconds, after-all Facebook is calling you constantly. But as I said I've decided I want to do intense research into this, because I think it's affecting relationships and men's perception of women in this era. Back in the day a man had to go out and by a magazine or a video, it took more effort and his subconscious mind prevented him from visiting the adult store or section everyday like a "freak". In this day and age, it's in his face at a click and private.
Anyway, so far I came across a site that had a quote I want to point out:
Pornography desensitizes. Exposure to these materials, whether violent or nonviolent, coercive or non-coercive, experimentally increases male aggressive behavior against women, and decreases both male and female sensitivity to rape and the plight of the rape victim. Both males and females, after viewing this material, judge the female rape victim to be less injured, less worthy, and more responsible for her own plight.I believe this statement. Due to my reaction to seeing picture after picture of this woman naked, I couldn't imagine feeling sorry for her if she had some "sob story" about a man raping her. I have to be truthful and ask myself would I immediately believe her or just roll my eyes and say "you need more proof"? Luckily unlike those who watch porn, I'm not so desensitized I would feel the same when it comes to an everyday average woman whose ENERGY is different.
I also came across this statement that stood out:
Several studies have shown that all persons, normal and unbalanced, who view pornography develop a yearning for ever more deviant materials, just as drug addicts crave stronger and stronger drugs. All persons fantasize about more deviant acts and materials and many even incorporate them into their sexual relationships. Many persons begin to employ more violent methods in their sexual relations.
Donnerstein, Zillman, and Malamuth report that "Massive exposure to nonviolent, non-coercive standard-fare pornography created an appetite for more unusual, bizarre and deviant materials, including violence in a sexual context such as depictions of sadomasochism and rape."I will be talking about this more, there is a reason "The Energy of a Black Woman's Ass" is my number one article. I think that unfortunately many women have brought into the one-sided images they see on T.V. Images that simply give off the ENERGY that a woman with a big butt "has it made" and can attract a mate more easily.
As with drug users, those who use pornography need more and more deviant materials to maintain their previous level of sexual arousal.
I think many women are realizing that isn't true. Instead they are attracting men who view them like the "Butt Models" they view and have brutal sexual thoughts about. They are realizing a man can detach them from their butts and simply use their butts without caring about them, or being overjoyed that they found a woman with a big butt.
They feel the ENERGY of men taking their sexual aggression out on them and because they have big butts they're being categorized as women to use in order to do so. They're being treated like a toilet and that doesn't match what they are seeing in the media.
Some low-self esteem women will settle for this just for the temporary sense of attention. Women like Maliah do it for the money and porno stars simply sniff a line of coke or take an ecstasy pill to escape feeling the brutality of the act, at least for the moment.
We can't do much about the internet, but we can CEASE ALL SUPPORT to women like this in the mainstream media and those men who parade them around. Doing so will force men in the media to display more normal and loving interactions with women. In turn it will change the ENERGY and mentalities within this culture and community for the better.
It's one of the reasons I wrote the article "Butt Models Need to be Under the Bed",.............. OK I will continue my research and talk about it more later and remember when you lower your standards, your spirit and sense of happiness will be lowered also.
