Can Destiny be saved having two parents like Nas and Carmen?
When I get really upset with his direction and who he collaborates with I call him a "Double Agent". I call him this because like many rappers he battles wanting to gain fans through them being able to relate to him and sending a message that can help them out of their situation and get them to think in life. It's a dilemma with a lot of artist. Particularly rap artist who want to relate to their fans but do nothing to help them with the chaos and "bondage by impulse" of their lives.
Many might say, that's not their job, it's not, but they wind up making things worst. "Double Agents" make things worst because once their fans can relate to their negativity because they do it too, they feel empowered by it because they feel they're just like the celebrity who seems dominate.
So that brings me to Nas's song "Daughter". I like it, I like how he comes clean by revealing his own mistakes in life. And I want to analyze the song from the perspective of being his Daughter and being one of his male fans who has a daughters.
A Daughters Perspective
If I was Nas's daughter this song would reaffirm that my Dad cared about me. It would remind me that my Dad is watching me and hoping the best for my life. I would know that my father felt a slight sense of guilt, for some of the mistakes he's made being a father on the road and in the spotlight. I would also know that because of this all the things he allowed me to get away with in life is because of this guilt and what I might say about the things he's done. I would know he does not agree with the things I'm doing and the direction I'm going, but simply deals with it.
What I Hope for Nas's Daughter
I have a father and I know how it feels to think your father worries about how your life might turn out. I take that feeling and channel it into trying to become stronger everyday so my father can be proud and not have to worry about me.Despite what Nas's baby mother, Carmen Bryant says, the song does not bring shame to the daughters actions. He is not rapping about anything Destiny has not shown the world herself. Not bringing a sense of shame to an action can be dangerous when trying to guide a young person but hopefully she will be effected by his sense of worry. Nas loves his daughter too much to make her feel shame and I hope that she appreciates that enough to want to make her Dad truly proud by thinking about how the things she does effects him.
Most daughters who have a strong, loving father in their life will try not to shame him. It's a hard thing for fathers to bear when they feel ashamed of their daughters. This is why it's rare to see women who had a loving father become a stripper, porn star, exploit themselves and they're less likely to become unwed mothers. They always have their fathers in the back of their minds.
It's hard for Destiny to not be influenced by Hip Hop culture due to her father being a well-known rapper. Because of this there's a great potential that she can be swallowed up by the culture and it's negative mentalities. In fact Nas claims that his daughter Destiny "put him on to" rapper Tyga. He was not upset by this and stated that he would work with him. Thus far Tyga's claim to fame is "Rack City Bit*ches" a song that's like a strip club anthem.
That's an example of another "Double Agent" ENERGY that can leave his daughter confused.
Things Aren't Looking To Good
Analyzing the Song from:
The Perspective of Fathers with Daughters
I'm sure many men can relate to this song, whether they are in the spotlight or not. As I stated, the song has the ENERGY of relating to fathers and having loving guilt to a daughter.But that's where it ends. There is no ENERGY that helps take men who may be fathers like Nas out of the bondage of their actions. I pointed out above that it actually holds the risk of normalizing their behaviors because someone who is idolized has the same faults.
This is where extreme consciousness comes into play. A consciousness that many celebrities leave behind because they are just focused on relating to their fans. At the end of the song Nas could have said "Fathers lets all step it Up", or "We can all Change". And that would create a barrier from these actions seeming like an everyday part of life within the subconscious mind.
When it comes to their children, fathers have a short period of time to lay the moral and mental foundations for them. There cannot be a long period of time where fathers are in bondage by their own problems and lack of self-control, which makes them a bad example. When this happens these negative ENERGIES become conveyed to the children and their standards will lower also and they will not feel ashamed by it.
Hopefully many fathers will hear this song and have a desire to be a better example through positive action. Sometimes a person's hopes and wants simply reside in their head and the destructive behaviors around them continues because it's easier to give into your impulses.
So in conclusion this song gives no reason or urging for men to fight their impulsive, destructive behavior. So because of this I give this song a 6.5 out of 10. That's above average, nothing Nas does lyrically is usually average, I just hope men will take this song further than where it leads.
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The Mother Carmen Brown
I feel I should say a few words about Carmen Brown. Supposedly she's upset by the song and says Destiny is too.It's hard to feel sorry for men who pick women like this, so I won't.
I feel sorry for Destiny, there daughter. Each way she turns she has parents who have major issues. Just recently her mother exploited herself in order to make money, by bringing up an incident that happened between Nas and Jay-Z due to her self-exploitative ways. This incident happened so long ago that a blind man could see she's milking it for money.
Her Book made the NY Times Best Seller List, just like Karrine Steffans book, (which speaks volumes about Black women, but I will address that later). But here's a mother who wants to protect her daughter and get her to refrain from exploiting herself, when she is the definition of self-exploitation. So in my mind and the minds of many others, what Carmen has to say is not an issue and doesn't deserve to be given great consideration. If anything it's between Nas and his daughter.
It's a lesson for men, because daughters rarely turn out to be completely different from their mothers, if they're raised by them.
Good Luck Nas and Destiny